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Many people are thrown into long distance relationship without ample preparation and proper knowledge how the relationship really works. For some (including the author), it can become one of the greatest adventures of life, but for others who lack knowledge how to handle long distance relationship properly, it can become one of the saddest faces of love.

Below are five facts you need to know before you say yes to a long distance relationship.

1. In long distance relationship, distance is merely a coincidence, and destiny has nothing to do with it. Departures are one of the most painful realities life has given us. In fact, we move heaven and earth just so that we can evade it, but there are instances that love really cannot oppose life’s imminent changes. In other words, no one wants to be separated from his or her loved one. That’s a fact. In long distance relationship, you badly need to embrace this fact, if you want love to come alive. The sweetest part of it, though, is when distance disappears, and this is what all of us love the most—reunions.
2. In long distance relationship, distance is neither a punishment nor a curse. It is just that love conquers all, even distance. Although the separation itself is some kind of an unbearable torture, yet on the positive side of it, distance is only a mathematical equation that separates two hearts. You may be physically apart from each other, yet you are intimately united in love, no matter how far you are from each other.
3. The relationship is fragile, so you need, both of you, to handle it with care. In long distance relationship, what connects you from each other, unless you are legally tied under marriage, is the “promise” of love, no more else. As everyone knows, love is like a wind, it comes and it goes, and we know it’s a crime to imprison it. So it’s a fact that distance can easily disconnect you from each other for countless parade of reasons. In this kind of relationship, when you break the glass of love, that may be the end of it. In long distance relationship, a lot of efforts must be invested in making it work for you. Caring is the key for the success of the relationship, both towards the person you love and the relationship that both of you promised to maintain.
4. In long distance relationship, distance is only temporary. This is the good part of it, because if you will be separated for the rest of your lives (unless the other is serving a life sentence), then there can really be no relationship at all. Just like any journey, long distance relationship should come to an end and you need to find a place to settle down so that you can start another journey. This time it’s a journey of you together as a family.
5. Long distance relationship is not for everybody, but if you work hard for it, then the impossible becomes possible. To make it possible, however, a lot of efforts are needed to make the relationship work because by itself long distance relationship is fifty percent failure because of the automatic separation of the two persons involved in it. If you will not work hard for it, by itself the relationship will surely collapse. In maintaining long distance relationship, responsibility must be shared by both of you. No matter how in love you are with each other, if the other is not giving enough effort to give his or her share of the responsibility, then the relationship is doomed to end.

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