Towards the Other
In my article on “Towards the Self,” I briefly stated that my relationship with other people in general is superficial mainly because of the absence of intimacy between us. An exception to this, however, is my family. We know that intimacy is what unites a family. But aside from the people in the family, there is one important person in my life that is intimately connected with me: my fiancée.
Intimately United Yet Physically Separated
Though I and my fiancée are so intimately united with each other—in love, dreams and visions—yet we are also suffering the same incapacity we are just both hopeless to conquer: distance. Here the conflicting union between intimacy and distance is creating a constant pain that is enough to knock us down if we are not that strong enough to fight. The aim of this category is to show that couples can intimately be united despite the pain of being physically separated.
A Test Of Love
Long distance relationship, as many people call it today, is a true test of love. If you are into this kind of relationship, then you know that the person you love is living somewhere apart from you. This is a de facto separation of what is supposedly an intimate union. In fact, when we are in love we always want to be with the person we love. This is a very ironical and painful reality to think about since love means union. The very of ingredient of intimacy which is a vital source of growth in every relationship is practically absent.
A Test Of Trust
The issue of trust is one important factor that guarantees the success of any relationship, but more so with long distance relationship. You may be madly in love with each other, but if both of you stand on a ground of distrust, then your relationship is doomed to collapse. If you are a person who plays around with life, then never even attempt to make plans about settling down in the future.
Shower Each Other With Overflowing Attention
One final ironic reality in long distance relationship is the fact that you need—yes, you badly need—to shower each other with overflowing amount of attention and care. But it’s nearly impossible to shower each one with attention if both of you live in two separate ends of the world. As human beings, there comes a time when we feel empty and we badly need human warmth to wrap up us around in moments of loneliness.
Aim
As what has just been said, this category will show that couples who are into long distance relationship can intimately be united despite the pain of being physically separated.
